Lately I've noticed a recurring theme with my clients so I'm compelled to explore it a bit more here. It turns out there are people out there who have lost the ability to dream.  Perhaps this sounds like you, or perhaps not. But it occurred to me these symptoms show up in others as well.  You might be thinking "how can you not have dreams?"  We all go to sleep and have dreams every night.  So what could be so hard about dreaming? And what's so important about dreams anyway?

Glad you asked.  See, everything begins with a dream.  This might sound cliche, but without a dream, a vision, a goal, people would just sit around and not do very much.  Dreams are what give us the reason to aspire to something - to want to achieve something.  Dreams are ideas in motion.  It's how we create, how we invent, how we manifest.

Do you remember daydreaming as a little girl or boy?  What would you daydream about?  How did it feel? What did daydreaming give you? 

Children have a much easier time with dreaming than adults. We lose the ability to dream as we grow older as, we become busy with life, our jobs, our friends etc. We get set in the ritual of our lives and often settle into the security and comfort it provides.  The need for dreaming goes away along with that security blanket.  And so we become much more rational, reasoning and logical adults.  Dreams are for children aren't they?

The danger that comes along with perspective is that we lose the vehicle for wanting more, for creating from the depths of our souls, and aiming for something higher.  Suddenly the possibilities become less feasible, and we just settle for easy.  

Deep down inside we know there is something more we want.  We just don't allow ourselves to dream of it - we find a million reasons why it's just not possible.  We talk ourselves out of dreaming before we even start! But that nagging voice will always be there, because human beings are always in motion, in evolution, and we are meant to be creating and manifesting all the time.  We are doing a big disservice to ourselves and others when we surpress those ideas, because those ideas could have impact out in the world.

So we keep them on lock down, buried beneath feelings of fear and doubt, as if to keep them from getting too big or too lofty.  Cause then, what if you had a big dream?  What if you actually allowed yourself to really DREAM? You might want to do something about it!  And that might require you to start playing  a bigger game, where you have to come out of your comfort zone and become a leader.  

My challenge for you this week is to daydream - but to give yourself NO limits when you dream.  No dream is too big or too small.  Notice what comes up - is it difficult, or easy? What limiting beliefs pop up when you dream?  Is there a recurring dream?  Keep a journal if you want.

Start working your dreaming muscle and dare to dream big!  And worry about the details later.  

An interesting article about the importance of Body Wisdom and how to begin listening to what your body is telling you! Enjoy!

http://healing.about.com/od/higherself/a/alignhigherself.htm

If you’re anything like me then you crave the feeling of being in control.  You like to know what lies two steps ahead, or even maybe four or five steps.  You want to know what to expect, and feel more at ease when things turn out the way you want them to.  You spend time analyzing, questioning, rethinking and planning your life.  Decisions are mulled over and over, opinions are asked, advice is taken into consideration, and of course there are the lessons of the past that go into it too.  By the time you decide what action to take, a lot of time has passed.  But at least you feel secure that you’re in control.

Sound vaguely familiar? If so, then you are officially a member of the group which I like to call – “I’m SO in Control!” – welcome!  We should probably start a Facebook Fan page – I think it would really take off. Imagine all the control addicted people out there…..this could be huge, really huge!

Why are we so addicted to control? What is it about certainty that makes us feel powerful and safe?  And how on earth do we kid ourselves in believing there is such a thing in the first place?!

Perhaps its because as human beings we deal with immortality, the eventual fate that lies ahead of all of us.  Maybe its because we are creatures of habit, and we thrive in stable environments.  Whatever the reason may be, all of us crave it, want to feel in control, and strive to achieve it, whether it’s in our personal lives, in our relationships or the world around us.

My last few posts have been about control and creating your reality - this topic seems to be popping up in my own life lately.  I’ve been practicing setting intentions and then letting go to let the universe take charge a bit and just staying open to what shows up.  I’ve found that letting go of the “how” – not planning or controlling how I’m going to get to my goal, is where the juice is.  It’s actually the key component in the law of attraction that I’m sure many of you are aware of.  And let me tell you – it actually works!

This may sound easy enough, yet can be difficult to do because of our desire to be constantly in control.  But there is also a lot of freedom there.  Imagine what it would be like to set a goal and not worry about the details of how to get there.  Think about the pressure it takes off you and the time and energy it frees up. 

Now I’m sure many of you are thinking there is no way you’re willing to give up your addiction.  This concept might even scare you and send you running for the hills.  I know it took me a long time to get comfortable with uncertainty.  Coming from an event planning background, my whole world revolved around contingency plans. While there is definitely a time and place for a nice solid plan, I’m proposing that it’s not always necessary.  Sometimes all it takes is to have a clear vision, set the intention, and let go.  Are you up for the challenge?



As I sit down to write this blog post I realize I need to do exactly what I'm about to advise you to do, that  is to create 2010. 

What does that mean - create 2010?  And why haven't I done it already, if I think it's such a good idea? 

Well the truth is, I'm too preoccupied with all the more important things going on in my life at the moment to make time to do this.  In fact, I've come up with at least 10 good reasons in the past few days to keep me from doing something that I know will set the tone for the rest of the year.  I made a few New Year's resolutions - shouldn't that be enough?  Sigh.....

Back to my original question - what does it mean to create 2010?  Keep reading and you'll find out....

To create 2010 means to sit down, in a quiet place, and vision what you would like 2010 to look like, feel like, smell like, taste like, and sound like.  It means taking time out of your busy schedule to ask yourself, what do I really want to accomplish in 2010?  Or, how do I want to show up as a person in 2010?  Or, what would the chapter of this book be called if I could name the upcoming chapter of my life?

To create 2010 means to ask yourself, if things could be really different this year - like REALLY different - would would those things be?  How would that affect my relationships, and the world around me?

Creating 2010 doesn't mean setting up useless New Year's resolutions that you're going to forget about in a week.  It's more about thinking about the possibilities, the opportunities and envisioning what fulfillment looks like for you.  And then working backwards from there.

Because, you see, when we set out with intention, and a focused vision for how our lives will look like, we set up ourselves for success.  We have clarity, we have something to aim for, no matter how crazy or outrageous it sounds like.  Then and only then can we actually set out to acheive a dream or a goal.  Sounds pretty important now doesnt it?  Well it is!!

So how come more of us (myself included) don't make it a priority to sit down to do this at the beginning of each year?  My guess is that we don't really understand the power of manifestation, of creating your own reality.  We underestimate the gift we have as individuals to actually manifest our desires.  And so we therefore continue along with our busy, complicated lives, and forget about the importance of setting clear intention - especially at the turn of a New Year, where we all want to wipe the slate clean and begin again. 

What will you chose to do (and I ask myself this very question) - carry on with business as usual?  Or pick up your journal, make a nice cup of tea and start creating......?  The choice is yours!